I hope our relationship has room enough for this conversation. I don’t require your approval. Though I do ask that you respect my decisions.
My tattoos are not some “old fools” thing. My tattoos are me screaming. They are my validation. When I was a child being strangled, and beaten and scared beyond my understanding. I screamed and no one heard me. No one saved me – including you.
My tattoos are me screaming now. Screaming at the top of your lungs for hours, isn’t allowed as an adult- they would lock me up in a psych ward and throw away the key! So I choose to get tattoos. They represent my survival. Though they are hidden most of the time. Those rare moments when they are visible and someone says they are beautiful – it helps to validate my pain. The very pain that no one validated when I was a child. No one including you came to save me.
I will not apologize for how I’ve chosen to repair what she broke. My tattoos are a significant part of who I am and my journey. I love you Take care of your self.